16 powerful words of wisdom that will improve your life
You know that feeling you get when you think back to old times, and you wish you knew what you know now. I do have that feeling all the time; I suddenly remember when I got upset about something that seemed so important at that time but was rather silly or I struggled with something I later found an easy solution for.
Obviously, I can’t turn back time, but I can share my life advice with you. So sit back, relax and read these words of wisdom.
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1. People gossip no matter what you do.
For years I walked on eggshells, trying to be the perfect girl, but no matter what I did, it was never right. I realize now that it wouldn’t have mattered if I did things. Differently, people like to talk, but I know now that it says much more about them than about me. So don’t shed a tear about it or spend your days worrying. Let it be, and remember the only person that should be happy with the things you do are you!
2. When you’re upset, ask yourself; Will it matter in 12 months?
If the answer is no, don’t spend more than 5 minutes feeling sad about it. In the heat of the moment, things can seem like the end of the world, but it never is. Read my emotion regulation guide for more tips and tricks.
3. Choose a career you love, not one that pays well.
I always felt that I had to choose a career that pays well and would give me a good job opportunity, but now ten years later I wasted a lot of time doing studies I didn’t love, and I ended up without a job, how ironic. So the lesson here; follow your heart and choose something you are passionate about!
4. Ask for help.
Asking for help is not weakness, it’s strength. If you can’t fix something alone, don’t be stubborn and ask for help.
5. Love yourself.
You can’t love anyone else if you don’t love yourself First. It sounds like a cliche, but it’s so true. If you have a negative self-image, you will never feel worthy of others or feel like you deserve anything. Make a list of things you did that you are proud of and write something down every day. Read it back at the end of the month and realize how many great things you did.
6. Learn to be alone.
People will leave, so learn to be alone. If you enjoy your own company, you will never be bored. Be independent and find out what you like as a person. Try different hobbies, go on a vacation alone and try to do things that are out of your comfort zone. You will thank yourself later.
7. Let go of what you can’t control.
We all want to have a certain feeling of control, but the truth is; we are rarely in control. Most things happen, and we can only control how we react to it, so learn to let go of what you can’t control and instead focus on accepting and coping.
8. A daily routine is important.
Your mental health improves if you have a healthy daily routine. Get enough sleep, plan your tasks, eliminate stress and build healthy habits. A routine helps to stick with healthy habits and keeps your hormones balanced. Try to wake up and go to bed at the same time every day and eat healthy meals at a scheduled time. This is the start of every self-growth process. The miracle morning helped me to start a healthy morning routine.
9. The bad times will pass.
It might not always seem that way, but nothing bad or good lasts forever. So if you are going through tough times, remember that it will pass and you will come out stronger. If you feel that you can’t take it anymore, go to your general practitioner or a therapist, it can help to get it off your chest and find help through the tough times. Read my tips to make the bad times a little easier to handle.
10. Listen to your gut; it’s often right.
If you feel that something is off or isn’t right, listen to that feeling. Don’t push it away or let other people convince you otherwise, that feeling is there for a reason.
11. Networking isn’t scary.
When I first started blogging I was overwhelmed with everything, especially connecting with other bloggers scared me, but everyone is lovely, and networking isn’t as scary as I thought. If you are kind to people and want to help them, they want to help you as well. Don’t be scared of networking; you will make great friends and find excellent opportunities.
12. Being different is ok.
The truth is, we are all different. Don’t feel pressured to be someone you’re not. Just be yourself and realize that you are more than enough.
13. Don’t stay angry.
Being angry is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. You have been wronged, many times, but it’s done, you can’t change the past. What you can do is learn from it, move on and do well for yourself. Your happiness is all that matters and karma will come around for those that wronged you.
14. Time doesn’t heal all wounds, but it does make it better.
The pain won’t fully go away, but you will learn to cope with it. Every day it gets a little better until one day you can think back and it doesn’t make you cry anymore. You can accelerate the process by finding something that works for you. Writing about my past experiences has helped me deal with my wounds, as well as painting and talking about it with my friends and a therapist.
15. You can’t change other people.
Nor are you responsible for their actions. You can’t change people that don’t want to be changed. Change starts by deciding you want to change and every person has to decide that for themselves. So don’t waste your time trying to change others, you will end up hurt and disappointed. Instead, focus on you and be there for them when they are ready.
16. Practice makes perfect (or better).
You can’t expect to find a hobby and be good at it. So start doing what you want, be passionate about it and see how you improve, one step at a time. Every great artist, musician, and businesswomen started as a beginner, they went for it, and now they are rocking it, and so can you.
Hopefully, my words of wisdom will encourage you to think about life and help you through the journey. Share your own words of wisdom and inspire others!